30 Days of Fire – Day 22

hot in here

Fire knows that when they are hot they are hot and when they are not they are not. Fire people are notorious with sharing their heat with everyone. Fire is the element that is known for having a temper that burns every one in their path. While Fire people think they just explode without warning. However, if we can keep our awareness and not get captured by our emotions, we are able to track the physical warning signs in our body. The angrier you get, the more your body goes into overdrive. It is important to remember anger is a normal response and emotion. In the early days of humankind it was what kept us alive. It fueled the “fight or flight” system of the body. Becoming aware of your own personal signs that your temper is starting to boil allows you to take steps to manage your anger before it gets out of control.

Here are a few of the dynamics of anger

  • There are often strong emotions when we are in a situation that has familiarity or reminds us of a situation from the past.
  • It is difficult when we a trait in others we can’t stand in our self.
  • Old unresolved emotions from the past are often triggers for our current emotional state
  • When we are stressed and our body resources are down anger is just at the surface of every interaction.
  • We are rarely ever angry for the reasons we think.

Here are some simple tips for cooling down:

  • Focus on the anger physical sensations.  While it may seem counterintuitive, tuning into the way your body feels when you’re angry often lessens the emotional intensity of your anger.
  • Breath: Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. The key is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible into your lungs.
  • Count to ten.  Let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If you still feel out of control by the time you reach ten, start counting again.
  • Move your body.  It releases pent-up energy so you can approach the situation with a cooler head.
  • Use your senses.  Take advantage of the relaxing power of your sense of sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste. You might try listening to music or picturing yourself in a favorite place.
  • Stretch or massage areas of tension.  Roll your shoulders if you are tensing them, for example, or gently massage your neck and scalp.

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30 Days of Fire – Day 21

Walking In the Sun

How’s your energy today? Did you create a few play lists?

While music is one of the easier ways to understand how energy works.  There are many others ways to get the element of Fire energized and flowing.  You see the trouble with Fire people is that when the element is out of balance you might become a couch potato or go to the other extreme and be addicted to moving and exercise.  The extreme nature of Fire is NOT a good thing.  Fire needs to learn how to energize up or down.  So, let’s just start a running list of some easy ways to move and slow energy.

Let the Sun In.  Nothing better then waking up in the morning and opening the curtains to let the natural light of the sun fill the room.  This is a great way to become energized first thing in the morning.

Taking a walk.  I do this year round.  Being out in nature and gently moving is a great way to warm the body and get your circulation flowing.  For the few times when I have a lot of build up energy a nice run is one of the best ways I know to release that energy.

Scream. Yes I have been known to scream a time or two.  Think about when you have been on a roller coaster or on a long drive and you have opened up the windows and just screamed at the top of your lungs.  Screaming isn’t only for when you are mad or scared.  Go to any playground and listen to the all the children screaming with delight as they come down the slide.

Speaking of playgrounds. Go out and play – Just for fun.  Go to the park and swing as high as you can.  Sit on the marry-go-round and enjoy feeling the wind in your hair. The older we get forget to go out for recess.

Breath.  If you need to turn down your energy slow deep breathing is just the thing.  I do this all the time.  When I am facilitation a group meeting and things get tense I often take a long deep breath and without a single cue the group will do the same.  This just slows everything down and helps people come back into their bodies.

Now it is your turn.  Think about a few things you can do to increase your fire energy and a few things you can do to slow it down.

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